At one time, I was at the top of one of Stockholm’s hottest companies. On the verge of going public, and with an executive marketing title and sizable salary, I somehow felt empty. After some soul searching, I realized that I couldn’t
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Noa Talks | What the Dying Regret Most
Do you know who Bronnie Ware is? She is a very inspiring person whom I never met but would love to. I am fascinated by people who ponder the meaning of life, particularly the wisdom that can be taken from those who are exposed to life’s fragility.
I just love the number one answer she got:
I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This is so true to me and I think a very good general rule for life in general.
Do you have any insights or stories you want to share? Feel free to leave a comment below!
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The Focus School: Why Focus Begins With Self Control
“How we focus holds the key to willpower… [t]he strategic allocation of attention is the crucial skill” — Walter Mischel
The key to self-management is executive attention: the power to direct our focus on just one thing while others is at the core of willpower, the essence of self-regulation.
Focus & Self-Control
Our attention has a limited capacity. While we’re working on something that requires a lot of selective attention—the selective focus on one target and ignoring everything else—our working memory only lets us hold just so much in mind at any given moment. As our worries intrude on the limited capacity of our attention, distractions and thoughts shrink the capacity even further, resulting in less space for actual focus.
Is Self-Control Learnable?
Executive function, or self-control, can be taught, but it can also be inherited. Different attention systems have different degrees of heritability, with the strongest heritability is for self-control. But this doesn’t mean that we have a gene pool that determines how well we are going to be at self-control. All traits have an on/off switch; if they are never turned on we may as well not have them.
The biggest determinators of this switch is our environment. The modern work-life balance for so many of us is typified by cognitive overload. This overload seems to lower our threshold for self-control. The greater the demands on our attention, the poorer we get at resisting temptations. But, ultimately, it is how we work with the world around us that makes the most difference: how we interact with others, the challenges we face and overcome, and how and what we learn throughout life.
Do you have any tips on self-control? Leave a comment below!
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